Feeling bad is OK

August 7, 2018

So for the past year or so, I have been taking my “Blank Time”(The time spent driving, waiting, awake crazy early before anyone else, awake crazy late before anyone else) to listen to some great audio books, listening to awesome inspirational and motivation videos on Youtube, here is one of my favorites: Arnolds Inspiration 

I was a child of books growing up, they were the very few forms of entertainment i was able to enjoy when everyone else was asleep. Reading had always transported me to a far away place where I could forget about school, parents fighting, bullies in school, homework and general sadness. I made it a habit to visit the library twice a month to not only do my homework, but to rent, return and place on hold many books that were supposedly supposed to come out, thanks to magazines that would advertise them ahead of time, this was of course before the internet was a crazy big thing. Over time, once the internet became a thing, i strayed away from books except for the ones assigned in school and more towards screens, video games, the internet when it was a young, vast, increasingly amazing tool to escape the real world as well.

Fast forward to today, where the whole world is in your pocket, I have come to realize that sometimes, even the most advanced things in the world, cannot replace the most simple things that have been around for decades. Now mind you, i do enjoy the feel and smell of a good book , but due to my time restraints, I have opted for an Amazon Kindle, which holds thousands and thousands of books in one little magazine sized E-Reader, which is so pleasant to the eyes over time spent reading on it.

My point here is that throughout time, we enter in a series of ups and downs, left and rights, positives and negatives. We have every right to be sad and every right to be happy. There is no Ying, without the Yang is what i am trying to get to. It’s a bit depressing, when your on a high off of happiness and success, to understand, in the back of your mind, that there might be a low coming up soon or something negative about to occur, but you don’t ever, ever let that stop you, it’s just a realist way of thinking. In the way i handle things is like this:

There is a positive streak, it goes on day by day, but that doesn’t mean that it will stay like that the whole day. You have to build on it, ALWAYS. I build off of positive or negative thoughts, situations and energy all the time, just to keep myself constantly moving forward, so that i don’t fall backwards to the past, because then you end up over analyzing what could have been or  what should have been. Instead, i focus on what will be, what could be and how i should make myself to be better and stay positive. Out of most of the situations in my life, i try to be a non stop fountain of positivity for everyone around me, no matter what. The only things that occur negatively in my life is from the outside, i never want bad things to happen to anyone, I do not judge anyone and i tend to stay away from negative situations. Just don’t confuse negative situations with hard altercations with people to either fix things, stand up for one another and being brave or humble. I asked once a very famous bodybuilder via Twitter how to get someone to stay positive and be a good person, this was during the dark time my brother was going through and in a way still is. He replied with a very simple answer: Inspire Through Example.

That’s what I am trying to do, day by day and trying to include as many friends as possible, because in the end, we are alone in our heads, but never alone in person, remember that. Feeling bad is ok, because as they always say, the sky is the limit. A better quote to leave you guys is from one of my favorite movies: Why do we fall Bruce? So we can learn to get back up. (The Dark Knight)

The Reward of Patience

July 22, 2018

As always, lets start off with a few fun photos of how life is at the moment:

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So as you can tell, Lailah has grown considerably fast in the last 6 months, which is what the doctor would always tell us as well as parents of older children, they grow very fast. She is 1.5 years old now and loving life everyday. Her mother is of course in most of these photos, but she never wants to be in them only because she knows I would be posting them on the Blog from time and again, she’s camera-shy Hehe.

From the health part of my life, i have been feeling ok, not too good and not too bad. From what i have been told and whats been proven in medical journals world-wide, if i do not give my body time to rest, besides sleeping, then i would be almost reversing the process of weight loss and destroying the process of muscle-building due to not enough nutrients getting to my muscles and time to grow. I just recently started taking at least 1 day off a week, just to catch up on paper work for the restaurant and personal chores to get everything moving forward. I’m stuck at 171 lbs at the moment, so i have been not only reading up again on my old diets but measuring everything i eat, restricting the amount of carbs i ingest per day and reading on a lot of new medical journals along with science baked books explaining the simple mathematics of a diet plan. I love to read and soak up all the knowledge out there on something i feel so compelled to understand more and more, unfortunately i can’t go to school and learn about this due to work, but i can at least prepare with the amount of knowledge taught outside of a classroom. My workouts have been planned accordingly to this new social media fitness guru called Julian Smith, just a couple of years older than me and very passionate about fitness. He has inspired me to do what i have always wanted, help others on a fitness level by inspiring through example. I bought a simple, handheld tripod for my Iphone and started to film literally every single workout that i do for the past 2 weeks, edit and post them on my Instagram and Snap chat, just to help people get motivated on what workouts they should be doing and the right amount of repetitions, how long the contractions should be and the proper form when doing the specific exercise. Now the difference between me and most fitness gurus/models is that I have  24%  body fat on me, for my height and age, i should be 15-20 lbs lighter and i do not do enough cardio to have a healthy heart and leaner look. Here are some shorts of my exercises and foods i have been documenting, hope you all enjoy:

Now of course these are just random videos of food and workouts, but in my Instagram or Snap chat, I post exactly how many reps, how long the holds and how many sets. Once i can get my media in order, I’ll post an episode on the Vlog of some exercises on the days i have worked out. If anyone have any questions or concerns, feel free to private message me. Like i have said, im no professional or fitness guru/model, just an average joe, trying to make things happen, Peace!

Ramadan Day 5

June 1, 2018

Today was a great day MashaAllah.

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The baby and I was able to hang out all day Monday and we were able to get up late together. I had to take my father in law to his usual physician in the early afternoon, which even though i have known the guy for a long time, he seemed to be off his game, cold, weird really. I guess for people who have been working for that long, that makes sense. I asked him how was his family and health, he just stared blankly at me and then looked back at the computer.

After that weird visit I took the family to the restaurant to prep for the week with marinations. It was a long work day after that that felt like forever, but was necessary, thats what happens when you own your own business, you have to put as many hours needed to make sure it runs smoothly, just until you can teach someone to do the same and structure a proper schedule to maintain quality.

So many of you may be wondering how is the restaurant going, whats new, hows it handling the pressure, publicity, quality and so forth. Let me take a moment and update you all:

Thank God, we are doing fine, surviving, spreading the word and making sure everyone leaves full. Bridgewater and Martinsville have welcomed us with open arms and the reception has been so overwhelming and amazing that we are just so lucky to be apart of a great community!

Ramadan Day 11

May 31, 2018

Now this day is my favorite day by far for Ramadan. Not only because it was my first day off during Ramadan but because my wife was off as well for Memorial Day weekend, it was very special just because we are together. We all woke up late, hung out in the bed, Lailah was just so happy to be with her parents, you can see it in her behavior and her face. After we got out of bed, we washed up, Fed Lailah, changed her and planned the rest of our day.

We went to the mall after and took my sister in law as well who had landed the week before. What I enjoy when bringing someone to New Jersey is the expression on their faces when the see NYC, the malls and random things that are different from Afghanistan or wherever. We also bought Lailah some light up shoes so that we can keep them in my wife’s car just Incase we end up going to the park or Lailah wants to run around.

From the mall we went straight to Paterson with most of the family. First we went to the newly renovated Turkish Bazaar, which had everything I’ve ever wanted from Turkish food, but as they always say, don’t go food shopping on an empty stomach. I got dried fruit, homemade yogurt drink, date filled cookies, halal sausages for cooking with eggs in the mornings and some freshly baked Turkish bread.

Afterwards we went to Toros to sit down and get our table and orders in ahead of time before the crowd. Not only were the long tables set up too tight with barely any room for people to walk, but as it got busy, the staff was less and less to be found. Also our meat wasn’t cooked all the way and smelled old, so we left a bit disappointed.

Ramadan Day 10

May 29, 2018

Wow, day 10 is already here! We are now officially 1/3 down. By now fasting has been pretty good, not too bad except for the days that I sweat from strenuous activities. Today was also extremely slow at work, most likely because everyone wanted to enjoy the holiday vacation at the beach but got stuck due to the clouds and rain. But at night t was fine, most of our tables were people having Iftar and breaking their fast. We ended up staying late though because we wanted to clean everything in the kitchen and front as well as prep for Tuesday so that we can enjoy our day off on Monday. I got home at 11:30 PM and the wife at 12:30AM. I know this won’t last forever, I know right now it’s a job and we are trying our hardest to keep it moving, we are setting up the grounds for a proper, timely expansion.

Ramadan Day 9

May 27, 2018

Today was a much easier day for fasting. I went to the gym crazy early to get it out of the way at Retro fitness in Greenbrook, which was ok. They made good use of some space here and there, but I couldn’t stand the color scheme or some of the crappy machines that were known to be made by low quality companies. After that I spent almost 2 hours trying to recruit a kitchen employee all over, asked questions, answered questions and got nothing. It’s so weird, how everyone wants to get paid but no one wants to work, especially younger folks. I read in the news these parents are suing their 30 year old son for not moving out, even though they provided him with so many ways to leave by giving money and finding places close by. I remember reading a part where when he was taken off the family mobile plan, that the guy freaked out, which was when the parents realized they had failed to raise a man and would need to drop the hammer on him moving out.

I know that we love our children, we would do anything for them. What I had realized from the many parents that bring their kids through and watching them grow throughout the years is that without guidance, discipline and communication, your kids will be more and more difficult as they grow older. Now mind you, I am not perfect and neither is everyone else, but most parents know they are doing something wrong when they throw money at their kids to shut them up or just hand them a screen or even buy them their own iPad, when their a lot older! Children are sponges, they want to learn, even when they don’t show it. Children see everything you do and say whenever their around you, they’ll think it’s ok to curse if you curse, they’ll think it’s ok to drink soda if you always drink soda. My advice is to always, always, always communicate with your children and give them positive, clear answers to their many questions that they’ll have growing up and please show them that they are always loved, even when we may be angry or ticked off. My wife and I have learned that we mustn’t argue in front of Lailah because then she starts raising her voice and tries to chime in, but you can tell she’s worried. Like I said, children see,hear and know everything your doing in front of them so don’t always treat them like they don’t know or don’t understand, they may know more than use at times haha.

It was also a great pleasure to run into some very old friends who would always Engage in deep, intellectual conversations with me whenever they came to the old restaurant:

Nothing has changed at all with them and they had lived in Hawaii for awhile, but from my understanding, once their grand daughter was born, they moved to Maine to be close so they can help out and be with their family there while enjoying retirement.

My Iftar meal was a bit different, the protein to be exact, it wasn’t grilled but stewed, which tasted amazing by the way.

Why really helped out with the weather was the insane amount of rain we got, it even looked like a hurricane outside for a few minutes to the point with the rain and wind combined created a wall where you couldn’t see a few feet in front of you!

This day felt, although slow at the restaurant, felt like it was needed to recover and relax a bit.

To end the night, my phone was able to take some cool pictures of the moon and I also ran into what looked like a rare Albino moth, but then again I don’t know most of my bugs.

Ramadan Day 8

May 27, 2018

Today was great, lunch was a bit slow but for dinner, everyone all came at once to break their fast. Luckily for me, I always make my bowl of food 2 hours ahead of time to make sure I’m not in anyone’s way later on. Here are a few examples:

So as you can tell, by the end of the night I was extremely exhausted, we left work at 11:30, picked up Lailah sho was already asleep and went back home.

I’ve also been recently reading a surprisingly good book by James Comey called A Higher Loyalty. It was great to read and understand his story before he got mixed into the presidential drama and learn that he’s as human as anyone else and with a good heart.

Today was also the day my sister in law started work and she only landed Wednesday morning. We are all work horses, we are all chasing that dream. But remember, life isn’t about working and paying bills, it’s about slowly but surely getting to your goals in life. I heard from a YouTube inspirational speech about a man who learned something very important from his father. His father was an Immagrations who came over from a third world country, worked his whole life, had 3 kids and wasn’t home as much because his excuse was the bills wouldn’t pay themselves. Now remember, it all comes down to you, your sacrifice and how you want to live your life for yourself and your family. This mans father worked so hard till he was 65 years old, retired, bought his dream house and later died the following year. With that event that happened, the YouTube inspirational speaker had realized that his dad struggled his whole life we he didn’t have to, he was of course grateful for his fathers hard work, but mourned the choices he made to be at Work more than at home. We only get one life so live it wisely, every moment counts and time doesn’t stop for anyone. We are all part of this life, our families life, friends life and so forth yet we need to actually be in it and not just pass by. Dream house or not, be happy with what you have, set goals and live in the moment with your loved ones because we might not get the chance to be there and with them again.

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